From Mrs. Barnes:
An interesting read from Love and Logic’s, Dr. Charles Fay.
The great thing about strong-willed, stubborn kids is that they give us quick feedback on our parenting prowess…or lack of it! Yep! As soon as our skills begin to slip, things get ugly.
Easy-going kids are another story. Unfortunately, they let us get away with far too many threats, lectures, reminders, warnings, unenforceable limits, etc. Because they’re so sweet, it often takes far too long to realize when our parental behavior heads south.
Easy-going kids need Love and Logic, too. They need to make plenty of choices within limits. They need to make plenty of small mistakes. They need to own and solve their problems. They need to experience our empathy as they cope with consequences. They need all of these things…and much, much more…so that they have what it takes to survive in today’s complex, oftentimes dangerous world.
The greatest danger for easy-going kids is that they won’t make enough mistakes when they are young…and the consequences of such mistakes are still small. We lose far too many sweet kids because their parents were tricked into using poor skills because of their sweet behavior.
Our audio, Developing Character in Teens provides a variety of strategies for helping kids ages five and up learn from safe mistakes…rather than life-and-death ones. Love and Logic materials be views at www.loveandlogic.com.